I might ask for advice but not permission

I might ask for advice but not permission
Photo by Bettina Lamspringe

Photo by Bettina Lamspringe

A friend of mine once said that she’s a bit jealous of my way of doing what I like and not apologizing for following my heart.

I didn’t quite understand it then but the conversation stuck to my head. In a good way.

I’ve always been this way. When I was six years old, I told my parents which school I wanted to go. My parents were against my decision, and later on, I learned the reason why. I told them which instrument I wanted to play at the age of seven (violin because I thought it was the hardest instrument there is) and that I wanted to switch the basketball team when I was ten, only because I wanted to be a better player. The list goes on...

Some of my decisions have been bad, some of them really good. Do I regret some of them? Yes. Have they made me a stronger person? Definitely.

But how has my character influenced me on a professional level? Right now I’d say I’m in a good position. The last two years (or maybe three) I’ve been working in small start-ups or in firms that employ less than ten people. I’ve been given access to all the tools and the freedom to experiment. I’m extremely lucky and incredibly thankful for every opportunity I've gotten to evolve as a person and as a professional. How I've been learning these past years have been through experimenting. Reading and asking stupid questions on different forums. Watching YouTube videos, and just by discussing with my colleagues and asking for advice. The main message in every textbook is that it's the organization’s job to provide enough education and support. The matter, however, is linked to the job, the company, the industry, environment, and so on. But to me, the best way of learning has been to Just do it.

So thank you again, mom and dad, for letting me experiment and make my own decisions since it has given me the courage to experiment, learn, succeed, and make mistakes both in personal and professional life.

I will continue to follow my motto.

I might ask for advice but not permission.